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כל אחד מהפרמטרים שציינת (סוג ההתנהגות הטבעית שלך, כיצד היא תורמת לך, כיצד היא מפריעה לך ומה ההשלכות) יכול להפוך את התשובה לגמרי.

A bit black and white, isn’t it?

I don’t think things are a simple as you put them. I’ll Use the relationship example to explain myself:

Let us say you are shy or introvert, and that this poses a problem in finding a relationship. Does this mean you now have to become outspoken and extrovert? That shy people can’t find romance? That’s just not true. All it means is that you have to become a little less timid. A little more confidant. You don’t go about changing yourself upside-down, this will never work. You make small changes – both in your behavior and in you expectations. Becoming little less shy won’t help you getting noticed as quickly as you might wish, but you will get noticed, and you will stay yourself.

Nothing is black and white, and life doesn’t go from A to B in a strait line. You will most probably stay the same person you are now for a long time to come, you won’t change drastically. What you can change is the level and tone of things, become realistic (without losing hope!) and rejoice in the fact that you are becoming a *real* adult. It really becomes you 🙂